A local radio station was interacting with their listeners on the topic. As I drove to work, the question kept me thinking, what would I do if I could turn back time ? Callers keep telling about things they would do differently, relationships they would nurture and mishaps they would avoid.
What would I do ? It just struck me that at this juncture, I would not change a thing. I have gone through a lot of pain, elation, frustration and joy. I have been slighted, hurt and have slight and hurt others too. God knows, those around me knows how my straight forwardness would sometimes strike like a blade through the softest point of the heart. In my defense, those were not put forth with malice. I am just being me and that means being practical to a fault. Come on, life is short, stop beating around the bush and get to the point. See.
That said, I feel that everything that happens, happened for a purpose. If it doesn't break you, it will make you stronger. Then again, perhaps I am of this opinion as I have just survived one of my regular tribulation. Getting out of that predicament was a harrowing experience. Yet as any predicaments, and there has been a lot, it humbles me and made me realise that no one is invincible nor are they immune to consequences.
The key, I think, is to learn to be thankful for what you have instead of pining for what could have been yours. Forget the "what ifs" and focus on the "now" instead...