Sunday, June 10, 2007

Parting Ways III

The weather has been brooding. The gloom and rain seem to be matching the mood that Jim is going through. It has been so bad that Kuala Lumpur experienced yet another flash flood. The infamous Smart Tunnel which is supposed to mitigate flood and traffic is not so smart after all. Its proponent blames clogged city drains. Yeah right, thought Jim. The plans of mice and men which the powers that be keep throwing curve balls at. Just like his life. On the upside, an unfortunate incident befalling his colleague took his mind off his own problems for a while. It was a tragic yet funny calamity. A new Honda Accord driven by his colleague's wife which was parked outside a shopping complex was submerged completely by the flash flood. The wife, in defence said that she is trying to save the RM 10.00 parking fee. A penny wise pound foolish move that is going to cost his colleague RM 20,000 to rectify.

The incessant splattering rain on his lanai brought Jim back to his thoughts as he reviews the weekend that will be ending in a few hours. It has been quiet. The kids cancelled their visit to him. Reason, the weather and rain will make it pointless as they will not be able to use the pool. Ahh, so it's the pool, not really to be with him then ? Jim smiled at that thought. The kids were just being practical, just like he does. He wouldn't know what to do if they were cooped up in the condo anyway. He is certainly not in the mood to drive anywhere as it is the school holidays and the highways will be jam packed, not to mention that no reservations has been made. Their family activities used to be out not in the house. The house is merely a place to rest and do the necessary. It's not that he doesn't miss them, he does, it's just that he needs time to adjust to his new life. He supposes his kids and ex-wife do too.


His plan to spend the weekend with the kids taking it easy in his condo, relaxing by the pool and sampling the nearby restaurants is busted. Yesterday and earlier today he just stayed in, watch TV, read a bit and review some work papers. Coffee and cigarettes became his faithful companion. Didn't get out of the building, did not even get in his car. Just lazing around immersed in empty thoughts. He was glad that it was not disrupted by the presence of the kids. Yet as the day is coming to a close accompanied by the rhythm of the falling rain, he suddenly misses and longed for their warmth and chatter. Especially the youngest, his princess and the middle one, his son. He could just imagine lounging with his princess on his lap and his son next to him in front of the TV before bed time. A ritual that he sadly acknowledges to be no more.


The eldest, being a teenager has her own life. He loves her but felt that it's best to provide guidance when necessary and let her make her own choices. His feelings for her is not as strong perhaps because the eldest was raised by his in-laws during those early years when he and his ex-wife were busy developing their careers and was travelling almost constantly. She never joins their daily ritual anyway as she does her girly things, her homework or her chatting in her room. Jim just couldn't understood whenever anyone says that you should love all your children equally and not to show any favouritism. How can you ? Even your parents you will love one more than the other.


For now, he could just imagine his princess asking his ex-wife about when daddy is coming home as she is wont to do whenever Jim went on one of his travels. He wished he could call and talk to her like he used too and humour her questions and hear her voice. But he dreads having to talk to his ex-wife for he is sure that it will be her who will pick up the phone. Nothing could be said now that will not be hurtful to either. Jim is just not in the mood to face that, not yet. For that he will endure the pain of missing his princess and prayed that she will still miss him tomorrow.

5 comments:

J.T. said...

Another lovely written piece. So heartfelt. It came to life as I read each line.
Feel so sad for Jim that he cannot be with his children when he wants to. A missing routine definitely adds to the pain of that emptiness.

By the way, what does Jim do for a living?

Apandi said...

jt, the whole story may be unravelled as time goes by...

Unknown said...

Hi Apandi,

I ni masuk in the middle of a story. But nevertheless this is a sad story..sigh! In any break-up, no one wins. Not the hubby, not the wifey and most of all, not the kids. Point, the adults should (but it is easier said than done) work hard to minimise damage especially emotional damage that could possibly hit the poor kids usually! They normally grow up scarred beyond repair if steps are not taken to talk and explain matters to the kids. Poor kids.

Mat Salo said...

Frankly I don't understand divorce when the kids are still growing up. I think divorce is best handled when the kids have reached adulthood. Why do people have to be so selfish?

I know one couple who still live under the same roof (but divorced) for the sake of the kids and they have my utmost respect. They conduct their private affairs outside the home while maintaining a reasonable "charade" at home. Kids need their parents, period.

Apandi said...

Ruby, yes, the kids.

MS, I know a couple like that too...